Whether you recognize it or not, you're at war with yourself. There's anxiety. Selfishness. Self-sabotaging tendencies. Narcissism. The black dog of depression. The inability to do the great things you long to do because you spend so many hours mindlessly drifting through the internet.
It is war but all is not lost. You can win—if you choose to engage. In I Declare War: Four Keys to Winning the battle With Yourself, Levi Lusko candidly shares about his struggles with moodiness, bullying, suicidal thoughts, night terrors, and difficulty managing himself. He identifies four weapons you have at your disposal—thoughts, words, behaviors, and power—and illustrates how to use them to achieve ongoing victory. (Back Cover) My Review: Levi Lusko's raw honesty always shines through in his books and this one is no exception. Our emotions can truly turn our thoughts and actions into a battlefield and the mind can overcome the goals you hope to achieve. Lusko relates many anecdotes and memories from this childhood and youth and how they continue to impact him today. Adult issues are often rooted in childhood events as he clearly demonstrates throughout the book.
Sometimes, especially in a season of depression and feeling unworthy, it helps to know that you are not alone. Even though you may not know the other person, it is a relief to know that others struggle --- and overcome the war within. I recommend this book for others who can both commiserate but face their own challenges with a renewed sense of courage to overcome their own battles. Use the tools that Lusko speaks of... Thoughts, Words, Behaviors, and Powers to overcome the thoughts that try to defeat you. Most of all, he points you to our ultimate Hope.
I received a copy of this Thomas Nelson published book from BookLookBloggers at no cost to myself for review purposes. I was neither influenced or required to write a positive review.
I just realized something: May 12, 2010 is both the day I got a home computer AND the last day I smoked. In one way I exchanged one form of bondage for another. 😐 Perhaps my hands were too busy to hold a cigarette, but I also had insomnia for several months... which could have been partly due to my complete fascination with social media. I averaged 3 hours of sleep at night, with a 10-20 minute nap during the day. Cigarettes were gone, but the computer was my new obsession.
I had a Facebook page for over a year, but was limited to what I could see and do until I got my own computer and internet. It was actually a FB friend who wanted to quit smoking and asked several friends if they would join in so we could support one another. I had smoked off and on for 40 years, so I knew I could quit for a while. I always quit when pregnant, and sometimes went a couple of years without smoking. STRESS was always the deal breaker for me. I actually realized one day, following several months of deep, almost to the point of suicide, depression that following one more personally devastating occurrence, I did not automatically return to my usual habit of chain-smoking when very upset. I also withdrew from many Facebook friends I had established relationships with and concentrated on my new career in social media management. Superficial friendships can be hard to hang on to, but it's self-protection for me. Working also became a life-saver, though. Not only did I need to support myself financially, having something to occupy myself was (is) vital.
While it is essential for work, I am not as addicted to my computer as I was 8 years ago. I can turn it off without worrying over what I am missing. Admittedly, Facebook is not as much fun as it used to be. Sadly, the world has become an angrier, sadder, more bitter place...or appears to be if you only read only certain social media pages and posts. But, I do find a lot of beauty, joy, connections, and friends on those pages. And, I need to work harder at being a friend to those I care about rather than withdrawing more into myself. There was never anything good about smoking, but there is good in having my computer...if used moderately and to be a blessing...and a better friend. Trusting others and allowing them to know me is a much bigger battle than giving up cigarettes!
Chains can be a burden or a blessing, depending on how they are used. Sometimes one link needs to be broken and removed and replaced with one that strengthens you instead.
Yesterday a friend sent me a link to a story on 'Tropical Storm Cindy' which is currently in the Gulf of Mexico. Although not expected to intensify, there is still the chance of a devastating impact due to coastal flooding. I was also reminded of the impact storms named Cindy had in my life in 1999 and 2011. I dug through Facebook notes and found the one I wrote July 20, 2011:
******************************* Tropical Storm Cindy has formed in the Atlantic.
Just saw that posted and my first thought was, "I can't see or hear any news until this is gone!" I am still attempting to recover from the devastation of Hurricane Cindy 1999!! You are probably thinking to yourself, "I don't remember Hurricane Cindy." It started as a depression. I could completely relate to that! I was quite depressed myself!! Furthermore, it was off-center & difficult to locate. Oh yeah! I was trying to hide within myself since I couldn't literally escape.
The news went on about how it was becoming more intense, and becoming a tropical storm. There were stories of it organizing! Well, I was trying to organize a project I had let lapse for several years, so I used this as a spur to action. I would get organized!! I could get my life back together!! She began to fall apart, but then there was an announcement that she had reorganized and was getting stronger! Yes!! I, too, could regroup, reorganize, and grow stronger!! Go Cindy!!
Then, alas, the news came that once again Cindy had weakened and succumbed to being a depression. As I listened to the news daily and sobbed as I heard televised reports of "Cindy is indecisive and keeps going back and forth in strength.", "We thought Cindy was going to be important, but she turned into much ado about nothing", and "Cindy turned out to be completely insignificant." Of course I did not want any person, place, or thing to be harmed by a hurricane, but I was to the point that I had totally turned this into something all about me. Even now, when I look it up, it is remembered as: Cindy had a long track with no direct impact. Now, comes the question of whether that is still my life. Oh, depression still comes and goes with no warning. Sometimes I think I should just change my name to Capricious. 😄
However, I did make some changes. The most important was to renew my commitment to Jesus Christ. I had not lost my faith, but I had virtually been stuck in the house for nearly 5 years following a car wreck. Walking was extremely painful & difficult, and I felt trapped. But I found a church that I could walk to, even if it was only by pushing a grandchild in a stroller. Still for several months, I did not get involved in any activities or interact with others. The fact that they needed a teacher for the 1 year old class, and my 1 year old grandson would only stay with me or his parents, spurred me to action.
Now my biggest problem is when I find myself being so busy doing work for the Lord that I don't always spend time with the Lord. Fortunately, He does remind me when I am neglecting Him. He knows how easily I slip into bad habits...and how miserable I am when I don't spend time with Him. More than anything, I want to be His hands & feet, and serve others in His Name! So, even when I am feeling overwhelmed, there is peace in the "storm".
The LORD is my strength and shield. I trust Him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving. ~ Psalm 28:7
"Thunder and lightning, storms and tempests, eclipses and meteors, tornadoes and earthquakes, are proofs to all that there is a Supreme Being, who is wonderful and terrible in His acts."~ R. A. Torrey
I admit, that although I always pray there are no devastating effects, I do love stormy weather. I love that quote by R A Torrey! It always makes me think of "The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands." ~ Psalm 19:1 And, when I reach the end of my life I hope that it can be said of me: Cindy had a long track with a direct impact on others through her service to her Savior. ************************************************** Now there is a new storm and time for a new self-evaluation. There have been both good and bad changes since July 20, 2011. I am not willing to discuss them publicly right now, but thoughts are not as organized as I would like today. I will probably re-edit this at another time. Just saying that I have stepped way out of my comfort zone several times---and LOVED it!! But, I have also built a stronger, higher tower around myself for emotional protection. And unlike the history of storms named Cindy, I want to be more steady and predictable---and to be a source of good, not destruction. Of course, the first step might be to quit taking it so personal whenever I see a mention of Hurricane/Tropical Storm/Depression "Cindy" since I do know they are speaking of weather.
And, I need to quit listening to the voices of others who try to define the real me...except for those who are giving me wise counsel and drawing me nearer to Jesus.
Depression, fear, a sense of unworthiness, and unfulfilled dreams can make women retreat to their beds—figuratively and literally—and refuse to face life. Yet most of the time, hiding in bed makes matters worse. Who needs emotional bedsores? Authors Martha Bolton and Christin Ditchfield gently show women how to climb out from under their emotional bedcovers, face their fears and doubts, and step into the lives God has planned for them. (publisher) Can I Just Hide in Bed 'til Jesus Comes Back? Facing Life with Courage, Not Comforterstakes a look at many things that women (and men) struggle with that puts a roadblock on their relationship with Jesus and fulfilling the plan God has for them. Just like with "The Parable of the Talents" (Matthew 25:14-30), God expects you to do something with the gifts/talents He has equipped you with instead of hiding in fear. It is easy to curl up under the covers, but Life is to be experienced and shared with others.
Both Bolton & Ditchfield have had times of wanting to stay in bed and avoid Life, and have had several struggles that were sometimes overwhelming, yet both have learned practical ways to get up and get moving forward. A good sense of humor is the best way to start and these women know how to laugh at themselves and bring joy to others. In fact, Martha Bolton has written comedy for such cherished humorists at Bob Hope and Chonda Pierce, as well as writing or co-writiing over 7 dozen books of humor and inspiration. Ditchfield, an author, speaker, and host of "Take it to Heart!" loves to inspire women to have a deeper relationship with the Lord and a life of passion and purpose.
This is not a book aimed for people who are in need of professional help. The intent of the book is to encourage women to get up and get living a full life. Sometimes all you need is a giggle or a smile to reignite your passion for life. This is perfect for you or a friend who simply needs a chuckle of encouragement. The chapters are small, so read one for a quick "pick-me-up" or if a small bit of encouragement is all you can handle right now. Sometimes we all have a tendency to want to wallow in our misery for a bit. I know I have to hit rock bottom at times before the need to laugh hits me. Or, you may be in bed for a legitmate cause, and need to know there is hope. Bottom line is that I enjoyed the book and appreciated their candor and laughter.
I received a copy of this book from the Tyndale Blog Network in exchange for a fair and honest review. All opinions are strictly my own.
Church is where many go to worship and to study more about the tenets of faith, but it is also a place of sanctuary and where it should be safe to share your problems with other believers. Yet there remains a few topics that are seemingly off-limits for discussion, and one of those is depression. Despite the fact that many of the leaders of the faith we read about in the Bible suffered through bouts of depression, a lot of churches gloss over those portions of the Bible or refuse to acknowledge that a Christian can be depressed. There are examples given all throughout the Bible. They include men, women, rich, poor, powerful, helpless, old, and young. Some of the chapters in Psalms that resonate most with me were written by David during times of discouragement and despair. Jeremiah became a prophet for his people at a young age, and went through many periods of depression as he reached out to God's people. One of the themes of Beyond the Farthest Staris the deep depression suffered by the pastor's teen daughter, Anne Wells. Instead of a church family that embraces her and seeks to help Anne and the Wells family, there is a distance that is emotional and leads to a physical distance as they move to a church in a small Texas town. But, is simply starting over in another town without properly addressing the problems a relief or merely more burden piled upon this young girl? Is lack of support from the church something that needs confronted? Bodie and Brock Thoene further explored the issues of Anne and other characters in their Beyond the Farthest Star novel, based on the screenplay by Andrew Librizzi. A perfect companion piece to the film, you can order both the book and the DVD at BeyondTheFarthestStar.com/Shop
If you need someone to talk to or more info about where to get help for depression, contact Beyond the Farthest Star at BeyondTheFarthestStar.com/Reach-Out
Women today are fading. In a female culture built on Photoshopped
perfection and Pinterest fantasies, we've lost the ability to dream our
own big dreams. So busy trying to do it all and have it all, we've
missed the life we were really designed for. And we are paying the
price. The rise of loneliness, depression, and anxiety among the female
population in Western cultures is at an all-time high. Overall, women
are two and a half times more likely to take antidepressants than men.
What is it about our culture, the expectations, and our way of life that
is breaking women down in unprecedented ways?
In this vulnerable memoir of transformation, Rebekah Lyons shares her
journey from Atlanta, Georgia, to the heart of Manhattan, where she
found herself blindsided by crippling depression and anxiety.
Overwhelmed by the pressure to be domestically efficient, professionally
astute, and physically attractive, Rebekah finally realized that
freedom can come only by facing our greatest fears and fully
surrendering to God's call on our lives. This book is an invitation for
all women to take that first step toward freedom. For it is only when we
free-fall that we can truly fly. (publisher description)
Freefall to Fly: A Breathtaking Journey Toward a Life of Meaning by Rebekah Lyons is much like reading the personal journal of someone. This is an honest account of how her life began to spiral as she dealt with her hopes, fears, frustrations, her present, and her past. As she attempted to grab onto things that would stop the the panicked feelings of spiraling out of control, she felt more laden with anxiety and was concerned over the burdens her family were also having to deal with as well. One illustration that stood out to me was our harmful words being rocks we pile on those we love. We think of throwing rocks/stones that may bruise or even break a "bone", but it is even worse to think of simply piling those rocks on a loved one until they are eventually crushed by the weight of it all. I think it is the weight of those that can lead to someone being to exhausted to properly heal. So, she encourages women not to hold on to those burdens (or hand them to other family members) or keep grabbing at things to stop ourselves in our pursuit of living the life of the woman God created us to be. It may not be the plan you envisioned but we each have our own journey and God has equipped us with the desires and talents to fly...but first we have to jump.
This wasn't one of those, "I can't put this down!" books for me, but it was good. A couple of things she had to say did give me something to think about, and that's a good thing. On the other hand, not all of us have supportive family and friends we can freely share with when going through difficulties. I would recommend the book, though.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the
publisher through the Handlebar.com book review bloggers program. I was
not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed
are my own.
I have been thinking a lot lately about my desire to escape. It seems that I have put so many things on hold throughout my life. When this happens, whenthathappens...then I can live the way I want to. Not that life has been bad; I have enjoyed it----- despite having regrets over a few decisions.
When I was a child, I had plans for when I grew up. Well, I ended up 17 and pregnant. Marriage, the funeral of my son (who only lived 2 months), and the decision to have more children meant that I would postpone things...until the kids were in school. The first one started to school, and my marriage ended. So, raising and supporting children alone became the norm, with thoughts of "when the children leave home...".
The oldest turned 18, and my family was involved in a wreck. The wreck was 18 years ago (8/13/94), and I still have not fully recovered from the injuries. A year later, there was a glimmer of escape with a promise of training. (I always wanted to return to school. While it isn't much, I am rather proud of the A.A. Degree I received at the local community college. A Liberal Arts degree did little other than making me a well-rounded conversationalist---but I accomplished a goal!) Then, my oldest returned with a broken marriage, an 11 month old son, and 8 months pregnant with a daughter.
That basically started Motherhood: Part Two. I postponed my plans so I could always be available to baby-sit while my child rebuilt her life, and I was happy to do it; I wanted a better life for my children. Not long after they all moved out of my house, though, my youngest child's son needed someone to step in and raise him. Once again I shoved back my thoughts of "escape" and took on the challenge of legal custody and single grandparenting. My sons did what they could to help support me, esp my middle child. Actually, there was even more fun this time. I had always been involved with my kids' school activities, but now I could do it full time. My kids are grateful that I waited until grandkids before I found out the fun of dressing in costumes for various school events. I am still shocked I did it! :)
Don't misunderstand: my children and grandchildren have always brought tremendous joy in my life. There has been heartbreak, anger, frustration, etc., but that is part of life. Time spent with them was worth every moment and I can't regret these years...even if I could have cheerfully strangled each one for various reasons over the years. Family and loyalty are important...plus God gave them to me to raise. Sadly, I let them (and Him) down numerous times...because I simply gave up.
What I regret is the chains of depression, poverty, despondency, fear, poor choices, and health issues that I have allowed to overtake me. With each setback, I have gained more weight, lost more ability to move, had to rely more on government handouts, withdrawn more into myself, had more serious health issues, and lost the ability to dream. It has reached the point of paralysis---not in body, but in confidence, trust, dreams, and hope. Being around people I know takes every ounce of confidence I can summon. (Sometimes I suspect there is a bit of an actor within me.) The thought of meeting new people, especially those whom I have come to care about through social media, is terrifying. I must keep a barrier erected. It makes it worse as I read comments that people do not realize describe me either physically, financially, or emotionally. That is why I frequently assure people that they really do not want to meet me.
During the past month or so, I have watched post after post deriding people who are on government handouts. I don't know if it makes anyone feel better, but I do not buy (or use) illegal drugs and I have never purchased lobster. It does break my heart and my spirit a bit more as I continue to have to use these benefits. I have even considered suicide, although the irony is that the taxpayer will have to cover the disposal of my body. But, I do try to volunteer as often as I can to give back to the community. I know that the internet is a luxury, but there have been kids here who needed it for homework. We don't have a car, and walking to the library--if it is open--isn't always an option. But, I use social media to promote and pray for people and projects; it is all I have to offer. And, I would gladly take a paying job to get off of all benefits. Instead, it looks like I am going to have to break down and apply for even more as health issues worsen a bit, income has dropped even lower, and family issues have arisen. I was recently told that I should just learn to trust God (and to read my Bible). Trusting God has been the only way I have survived for my entire adult life! However I have immersed myself within the power and clutches of the various "enemies" of fear, failure, rejection...and not trusted God enough to surrender those parts of my life to Him. So, I guess that person has a point. (PS: I do read my Bible. And, I actually try to apply it to my life.)
A favorite passage of Scripture of mine is Psalm 25:
1 Lord,I turn to You.2 My God, I trust in You. Do not let me be disgraced; do not let my enemies gloat over me. 3 No one who waits for You will be disgraced; those who act treacherously without cause will be disgraced. 4 Make Your ways known to me, Lord; teach me Your paths. 5 Guide me in Your truth and teach me, for You are the God of my salvation; I wait for You all day long. 6 Remember, Lord, Your compassion and Your faithful love,for they have existed from antiquity.7 Do not remember the sins of my youth or my acts of rebellion; in keeping with Your faithful love, remember me because of Your goodness, Lord.8 The Lord is good and upright; therefore He shows sinners the way. 9 He leads the humble in what is right and teaches them His way. 10 All the Lord’s ways show faithful love and truth to those who keep His covenant and decrees. 11 Because of Your name, Yahweh,forgive my sin, for it is great.12 Who is the man who fears the Lord? He will show him the way he should choose. 13 He will live a good life, and his descendants will inherit the land.14 The secret counsel of the Lord is for those who fear Him, and He reveals His covenant to them. 15 My eyes are always on the Lord, for He will pull my feet out of the net.16 Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am alone and afflicted. 17 The distresses of my heart increase;bring me out of my sufferings. 18 Consider my affliction and trouble, and take away all my sins. 19 Consider my enemies; they are numerous, and they hate me violently. 20 Guard me and deliver me; do not let me be put to shame, for I take refuge in You. 21 May integrity and what is right watch over me, for I wait for You.22 God, redeem Israel, from all its distresses.
********************************************************* Of course, my enemies are not people. At least, I know of none. :) But I do allow enemies of fear, depression, pride, anger, distrust, bitterness, etc. to triumph when I know that battle belongs to the Lord. In Hebrews 13, Deuteronomy 31 and Joshua 1 (along with many other places), God assures us that He will NEVER leave us not forsake us. God is with us ALWAYS!!!
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But now, I think it is time I turn my Escape Plan into a plan of action. It may mean swallowing my pride and utilizing even more government handouts to help me get on my feet so I may be able to more effectively serve Him and others through Him. I haven't even called my dr for an appt when health issues have worsened...because it is a "free" service. I may have to apply for disability. I may have to trust people and not automatically expect rejection. And if they do reject me...Jesus loves me. (I may often think He doesn't like me, but I do know He loves me.) I don't know where my escape plan will lead me. Away from where I live? Maybe. I just want to be open to all possibilities, no matter where they lead. However, even if it means I live the rest of my life right here where I am, I want to escape from this pit of despondency and despair and to live in the center of God's Plan for MY Life!! To paraphrase and personalize Psalm 37:24, 'Though I may stumble, I will not fall, for the Lord upholds me with His hand.' Even though, I am kinda hoping no one ever reads this (I am posting it more as a reminder to myself)...if you do, please say a prayer! Thanks!!! :)
Benjamin Franklin is quoted as saying, "Many men die at 25 and aren't buried until they are 75." This book is intended to wake up these people.
Fully Aliveuncovers forgotten signs of life in a culture seemingly filled with the opposite. Through action steps that led to his physical, mental, social, and spiritual health, Ken Davis recounts his journey back to the land of the living and the signs of life he found along the way.
The anchoring focus is based on the apostle Paul's quest for life, when he said, "I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection." A power greater than death is available for what we face today? Who doesn't want a piece of that? (from the publisher)
This book came along just when I needed it. It is filled with encouraging stories, practical ideas, and humor. Throughout the book, Ken tells the reader that there is so much more to life than just existing until death. Age, poor health, obesity, depression, retirement: whether you are facing all, some, or even a different set of obstacles, there is hope to LIVE as long as you breathe. Actually, Ken encourages you to breathe hard as you give all you have in life. When circumstances are crushing your spirit, shove back.
This is a book that will inspire you to find the passion you once had to enjoy every moment instead of shuffling slowly with your head bowed in defeat. It may be a step-by-step or moment-by-moment progress...but make the effort to move!! Fear can either paralyze you or it can get your heart pumping and your legs moving. This is definitely a book for anyone who wants to live life to the fullest.
You can purchase this book through Thomas Nelson, Amazon, ChristianBook (CBD), or other great retailers.
Ken Davis website: Ken Davis
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Sometimes Life does not turn out the way you expected, and you wonder why God allowed certain things to happen. Whether it is a major event or just many little things all coming together, all of us have had something devastating, or even just disappointing happen in our lives. In As Silver Refined, author Kay Arthur suggests that "the things you call disappointments are really His appointments."
Dr. Joseph Carroll of the Evangelical Institute of Greenville, SCis the person Kay credits with introducing her to the idea of the "5 Deadly D's": Disappointment, Discouragement, Dejection, Despair, Demoralization. I have to admit that I got a bit confused here since she also threw in disturbed, disheartened, depression, and demoralization (plus, I read disbelief somewhere else). Being the person I am, I guess I should also toss in distraction! Things like that are my fault, though, and not the author's. I also struggle with the Precept concept because I get so focused on properly coloring and using the correct symbols that I miss the point.
I do have mixed views on the book, though. I am all too familiar with all of the "D's" mentioned, and I do appreciate the Scripture provided and can definitely see the benefits of going through the Study Guide provided in the back. Perhaps the brief overall of just reading the book for review purposes is why I still feel like something is missing. And, of course, this book is not meant to be a one-time-read "cure-all". The conversational style of writing makes this seem more of a personal journal; it does bother me a bit to be called "beloved", but that is just me.
Still, I would recommend this book to others. There is no doubt that Kay has gone through some of these emotions and feelings herself. There is a depth of understanding present that not all authors are capable of presenting on the written page. I did glean useful info from the pages, and I know several people who find her methods to be incredibly helpful.
The latest book release by Sheila Walsh is one that will speak to many people. God Loves Broken People(And Those Who Pretend They're Not) is not a book designed to make all of your problems evaporate with a sprinkling of Scripture, or buzz words to make you feel good about yourself. Nor, does it make any guarantees that all of your brokenness can be placed firmly in the past. However, it is filled with stories of others who have faced sorrow and insecurities and assures the reader that God can be trusted and does love us.
"It’s not that God loves broken people more than those who imagine themselves to be whole―it’s simply that they know they are loved. They dare to believe it . . . and through such trust, a new wholeness emerges from yesterday’s broken pieces." ~ from the book jacket. From personal experience, I know that it often feels during the times of bleakness that God simply doesn't love you. The reminders that His promises are for all of us who seek Him and that He longs for a relationship with His people are a great reassurance. Sometimes what we know in our head, can be overpowered by what we are feeling. Logic can flee when sorrow invades, so that is the times we need to cling to what we know to be true.
This wasn't the most profound book I have ever read, but it did provide glimmers of light and hope to those going through a time of darkness. Sometimes, the lighter fare is easier to absorb and several of the anecdotes did speak to me, and cause me to think from a slightly different angle. The Bible studies that go along with the chapters are good for both self-evaluation or for a discussion group. Just the reminder that God may allow part of my life to be broken, but is able to use those broken pieces for a much greater purpose was reason enough for me to be glad I read this book.
Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from the publisher through the BookSneeze®.com <http://BookSneeze®.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”
"When our world comes crashing down, it does more than steal our peace. Something inside us tears. We feel broken, stranded—torn." When I read that on the back cover of the book, I could immediately identify with this statement. Pastor Jud Wilhite has gone through his own moments of being torn and turned to the Bible as he sought comfort and understanding. He also found that rather than asking "Why?", he needed to ask, “Who?”. Who can be trusted to help mend the ripped pieces of your hopes, dreams, life? Can we trust God when the Whys? are not revealed?
In Torn: Trusting God When Life Leaves You In Pieces, Jud looks at practical ways to deal with depression, anger, and being robbed of your joy. Sometimes there is a clear reason why someone is going through a valley, but it can also come on for reasons no one can pinpoint. One sentence in the book that caught my attention is, "You can't control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it." He also broke down Philippians 4:8 ("One final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." NASB) in a manner that that I found to be a drink of Living Wateras I wander through a dry valley right now. For a Sneak Peek at Torn, click here.
Jud Wilhite serves as Senior Pastor of Central Christian Church. He is a graduate from Dallas Christian College and Lincoln Christian Seminary. Also, he is a frequent conference speaker and the author of several books. You can follow Jud Wilhite on Twitter at @JudWilhite.
“I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review”.
Although I already knew the significance today holds for me, it brought a rush of memories back when I saw what I had posted one year ago today. (not ALL of the new FB features annoy me). I had posted the following: Cindy Navarrois going for a walk since I just realized it is dark again. Hopefully it is much less humid tonight...or it will be a short one.
Everyone is probably thinking, "So? You often post something mundane like that!" And then people who haven't seen me in years are really confused since I used to walk for miles just out of the sheer love of walking. I have mentioned several times about the wreck I had 17 years ago. Locally, I'm sure there are several who noticed that I often had a cane, or even a walker, at times. Unless I knew there were plenty of chairs around, I was afraid to risk not having something to lean on.
Anyway...when I returned from walking that night, it was with tears streaming down my face and the awe that for the first time since Aug. 13, 1994, I walked 1 MILE...unaided!! It was probably a world record for the slowest mile ever walked, but I DID IT!! I couldn't think of anyone who would understand the amazing victory this was for me, but had to share my joy with someone!! I had been "talking" with a fairly new FB friend earlier, so when I saw another message, I shared my news. All I will say is that God led me to the perfect encourager!! :)
This has also been a year of taking control of depression, which has plagued me for years. Have I conquered it? No. Nor do I walk every day. There are setbacks, but the recovery time is much quicker. Sometimes there are legitimate reasons for being sad... or not walking. Sometimes...I just don't want to deal with emotional or physical health. But, I have a God who constantly reminds me of His love (and, sometimes, that is through a friend either reminding me of God's love...or a "Are you walking?" lol)
Today, I am reminding myself to KEEP WALKING...both physically and in my spiritual walk. After a few days of physical inactivity, that mile today was harder, but worth the effort. As I journey closer to the time when I will forever be walking with my Lord, I want to increase my endurance and victories over physical difficulties and depression. So, this begins Year 2 and my expectations are...
...You have turned my mourning into joyful dancing. You have taken away my clothes of mourning and clothed me with joy ~ Psalm 30:11
Lately I have struggled some with depression, and could not seem to get beyond these feelings. So, today, God graciously used my sense of humor to help bring things back into perspective. I don't know how many remember AL Franken's character of "Stuart Smalley" on Saturday Night Live, but he is famous for his Daily Affirmation. Here is a small sample:
Well, this morning I was running late and just could not get it together. I was really beating myself up emotionally by the time I arrived at the warehouse I have been volunteering at lately. But, coffee had been made, a post & messages from a couple of FB friends had encouraged me, and I had found a Bible among some other books that had been donated to tornado victims. In other words, the day was beginning to hold promise. I opened up the Bible and was about to turn to Jeremiah to study for next Sunday's lesson. (Btw, being depressed is not always the best time to study Jeremiah...also known as "The Weeping Prophet"! LOL)
As I glanced down to turn the page to where I needed to go, my eye was drawn to a verse that did literally make me Laugh Out Loud. Psalm 45:2 in the Contemporary English Version says: "No one is as handsome as you! Your words are always kind. That is why God will always bless you." My first thought was, "Oh my goodness! If Stuart Smalley had just been saved this would be his life verse!" I could just picture him peering intently into the mirror quoting that verse. God knew I desperately needed something to make me laugh, and provided what I needed.
This was also used to remind me that while my thoughts about myself have been completely opposite of Stuart's affirmation of himself, both are exaggerations. Even more importantly, I have a God who knows exactly what I need. He may allow me to wallow in self-pity for a while, but He won't let me stay there. While I am not an advocate of the 'randomlyopening the Bible' method of inspiration, I did have one another moment later in the afternoon: I had been praying in my spare moments today for a friend's urgent request, as well as my recent attitude toward myself. I had to go make a copy of something, and when I returned the fan near me had caused the Bible pages to flip over from where I had been reading earlier to a verse my friend & I had claimed over this particular project months ago (and is also perfect for some stuff I am currently going through): Ephesians 3:20 ~ "Now to Him who is able to do above and beyond all that we ask or think according to the power that works in us—" God is good...and just knowing He loves me is all I need! :)
Kay Arthur's latest book deals with hope and healing that can come from some of life's most desperate and pain-filled trials. This book addresses issues of pain caused by others, and problems you may have brought on yourself through poor decisions. Through-out the book, Kay reminds the reader that the best place to take your pain and hurts is to the cross. Jesus went through suffering that is unimaginable and He wants to bring you through this pain into a deeper relationship with Him. God can and will turn your disappointments, pain, and suffering into hope. Sharing tribulations from her own life and stories from others, the reader is assured she is not alone. There are several examples given from Scripture of others who went through pain and despair, yet were still able to not only survive, but thrive, in their relationship with God.
There were many topics in this book I could relate to : death of a baby, rebellious children, divorce, and a few other painful experiences. I know what it is like to cling to God through the pain, and there are years I rebelled against Him.While I have faced several problems through-out my life, some of the experiences that are touched on in this book are so traumatizing that I cannot imagine the sheer horror of it all. These women desperately need to know that they are not at fault and to be able to rebuild their lives. I loved the Scripture, the assurances of God's love, and the Bible study that is easily used on your own or as part of a small group study. This is certainly a book that aids in the healing of trauma and guides a person into the loving embrace of her Heavenly Father.
“I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review”.
That has always been a favorite hymn from my childhood,
and one I have thought about a lot recently. Have I always
just mindlessly sang it...or have I ever sincerely asked
God to mold me into the image He wants me to be?
But who are you, a human being, to talk back to God? “Shall what is formed say to the one who formed it, ‘Why did you make me like this?’”Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use?~ Romans 9:20-21
Crosshaven went through the book of Romans this year, so this was the first instance of this verse appearing to me. Unfortunately this is also a verse that is too reflective of my attitude this year. I would say that I have always been accepting of anything connected to my life. Not to say that I don't rebel because I have pitched some temper tantrums with God that would put any 2 year old to shame.
There have been some wonderful changes in my life in 2010, but the whiney, "Why?", has become too prevalent also. This is certainly an area I am having to deal with much too frequently.
He was using his hands to make a pot from clay, but something went wrong with it. So he used that clay to make another pot the way he wanted it to be. Then the Lord spoke His word to me: "Family of Israel, can't I do the same thing with you?" says the Lord. "You are in My hands like the clay in the potter's hands." ~ Jeremiah 18:4-6 (New Century Version)
On Sunday mornings in my Life Group (small group, Sunday School, whatever you want to call it), we have been studying the book of Jeremiah. This verse brought to mind that even though we may mess up, God can still use us. When something went wrong, the potter just started over to make the pot into what he wanted. This verse is one that gives me much hope and comfort. God can still use me.
After a day spent in what felt like a black pit of despair, the chance to go to church tonight to hear a message on the HOPE that was born to mankind on Christmas Day helped me begin to climb out with a glimmer of hope for my own life. I have prayed not only for me to live my life with acceptance, but acceptance-with-joy. God even graciously granted a selfish little prayer that I begged Him to send me as a sign that my prayer for forgiveness over my attitude ...especially today's...had been heard. (and that was even after I quickly repented of begging for a favor!)
Now, to truly begin to live as God wants, and to not question every motive or complain because things aren't what I hoped them to me. His Grace truly is sufficient. And whenever I sing along with "Potter's Hand", I want this to be my sincere prayer ... and to joyfully serve His purpose for my life.
December 29, 2010: "I will yield my life to the Potter's Hand" ~ Cindy
Depression is a problem that seems to run rampant at this time of year. Whether it is the pressure of feeling the "holiday spirit" or a myriad of real, or even perceived, problems there is no doubt that the time between Thanksgiving and New Year's Day can exacerbate emotions. The pressure of trying to live up to expectations or the disconnect from loved ones can increase feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, and despair. This can be a time of bonding or a time when everything falls apart.
For teens, there is the added stress of being between childhood and becoming an adult. Everything always seems so much more intense and important during those years. I remember wanting to pull away from family and establish myself as my own person, yet a part still longing to cling to my childhood. At no other time is the heights of exhilaration and the depths of despair more keenly felt. During a season filled with family events, it is so easy to withdraw and no longer feel a part of those you once loved unconditionally. Finding out that your parents are indeed human can be a shock. Admittedly, the parents also wonder what happened to the sweet, pliable child who believed Mom and Dad knew everything and could solve any problem.
Beyond The Farthest Star tells the story of a father desperate to connect with his Goth daughter and regain the love of his wife.The rush of this season pulls us in so many different directions that we often lose sight of those who should matter the most to us. Instead of letting our families know how important they are to us, we concentrate on things that will be quickly forgotten in years to come and neglect what and whom really matters. We have become a culture where families appear to be a throw-away commodity, and we need films such as this to make us re-examine our own priorities. I truly believe this will be a film that can make an impact on the lives of millions.
TEEN SELF HARM: In Pathlight Entertainment's, Beyond The Farthest Star, the character Anne Wells (Cherami Leigh) struggles with depression. The movie takes an unflinching look at the subject. Teen Depression and self-mutilation is a very real issue.
A site that I personally would recommend is TWLOHA .
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DISCLAIMER: The opinions expressed in this post are entirely my own. They do not represent or have the consent and/or knowledge of Pathlight Entertainment, Beyond The Farthest Star, or TWLOHA.
